Parashat Noah — What Really Bothers God
As a parent, it is frustrating to me when my children don’t do what I ask them to do. No one likes being ignored, or having to say things twice. But it’s even harder for me when they fight with each other. I have a younger brother and sister, and when we were growing up, we spent our fair share of time arguing, so I understand that siblings quarrel. But as a father, my children’s fights with each other pain me more than their failure to listen to me.
This pattern is true for me as an educator too. It’s never easy when my students don’t listen to me, but I have a much harder time when they are mean to each other.
Perhaps it was a similar feeling that led the rabbis to make an interesting point about God’s actions in Parashat Noah. The bulk of the parashah is concerned with the Flood; according to that story, God swept away most of creation, ending the lives of most of humanity. At the end of the parashah, we read about the Tower of Babel; in that story, God scatters humanity by scrambling their languages.
What spurred these two powerful divine reactions—and why was the Flood so much more severe? According to the Torah, the Flood came because the world was full of violence—people hurting each other. In contrast, the Tower of Babel represented a human attempt to glorify humanity; to the rabbis, its builders were trying to usurp God. When our relationship with God is warped or damaged, it clearly troubles God—but what God really can’t stand is when our relationships with each other become cruel, abusive or violent.
We need to strive for strong relationships with God and people. We can have both — it’s not a zero-sum game! But if we find ourselves putting all of our focus on God, Parashat Noah seems to tell us how God might feel about that.
Shabbat shalom,
Rabbi Jonathan Berger
Head of School
Questions for the Shabbat table:
1. Why does God hate it so much when we fight?
2. If you are a parent: what exactly is so upsetting about when our children fight? If you are a child: which is harder to avoid, fighting with a sibling or friend, or arguing with parents? Why?